New Year’s Resolutions

Okay, look, I know everyone thinks that New Year’s resolutions are kind of dumb. The beginning of January brings a barrage of really tired jokes about the gym being really busy for only two weeks blah blah blah. There seems to be a consensus that people don’t do a great job of keeping the resolutions they make, but I think if you’re part of that consensus, maybe you should make one of your resolutions to be more of an open minded person. Because there are worse things in the world than resolutions.

Tonight at midnight the world is going to change into a brand new year, but in reality nothing actually changes after that ten second countdown. Our world is run by some arbitrary system of time and dates that we all go along with so yes, it being a “new year” doesn’t really mean much. But, being a member of the world, I figure I’ll go along with it and take advantage of this arbitrary system. So I’m going to treat this new year as some metaphorical, symbolic change to encourage myself to be a better person. Because I think we should all always work towards bettering ourselves, so why not use January 1st as a kickstarter?

So here is my list of things I want to do at some point, and I will use the new year to motivate myself towards doing them. This isn’t some forced-opinion, super vague list of resolutions that I think every single young person on the planet must have that you may find on websites like Elite Daily (confession: I kind of hate Elite Daily). This is just a list of things I want to do. Feel free to join in. Also feel free to disregard them as a whole.

1. Get over it

I spent half of this year trying to fix something that I broke without knowing how I broke it, and it’s come to the point where I just need to accept it and move on. I think that a lot of things that cause stress and struggles in my life are really unnecessary, so I’d like to work on recognizing the things I can’t do anything about, drop any bitterness, and just get over it. Maybe this sounds negative or pessimistic, but I think it’s realistic.

2. Stop being so sorry

I’m a very nice person. I don’t mean this arrogantly; trust me I’m not a great person. But I’m very nice. Too nice at times. Being nice is great and it helps people, but being nice also makes me way too apologetic. I am too quick to blame myself and apologize for things when I probably didn’t do the thing I’m blaming myself for and probably have no reason to apologize. Yes I still hold myself accountable for my actions, but I really don’t need to say sorry to every table I walk into. I walk into a lot of tables.

3. Try to be a more social human being

Sometimes it’s hard to tell, but I’m a shy person. I also err on the side of introverted. Not to mention I’m pretty sure I have some form of social anxiety. I like alone time and I like to hermit myself away with Netflix and snacks. But lots of people like Netflix and snacks, so one of my goals is to push myself to invite people to join me for said Netflix and snacks. Consider this to be like a Craiglist ad.

4. Be more observant

This is a rather broad statement but it means a lot of things. It means put my phone down and look around once in a while. It means actually see the details of the visual world I live it. It means be observant about the people around me and more invested in the lives of the people I care about. Sometimes I feel like I let ignorance blind me.

5. Ask for help when I need it

I am the worst culprit for not doing this, and I think this will be particularly important this year.

So there you have it. Of course there are other little things like “actually do my readings” and “buy more healthy food,” but I stuck to the big stuff. I know New Year’s resolutions have gotten to the point of being clichéd or unrealistic or only for squares, but honestly I encourage you to be more openminded to them as a motivator to make those changes in your life that you’ve been wanting to make. Or, you know, don’t. Do whatever you want. I’m not your mom.

Happy New Year!

I don’t love Christmas

Confession time, guys.

I don’t feel like writing some cookie-cutter I-love-Christmas-it’s-so-magical-I’m-so-blessed blog post because, honestly, I don’t love Christmas. I like it, I do, and I’m really not trying to dampen the mood. But it’s Wednesday I don’t enjoy lying.

But I also don’t love the idea of going into detail. I guess I just don’t have the energy. Don’t get me wrong, there are things I’m looking forward to, like my family’s Chinese food on Christmas eve tradition, the abundance of baking my mother has done over the past few day, and the very slim chance that my parents got me Taylor Swift tickets for Christmas (but, like, hella slim). But, I don’t know, sometimes I wish I could just skip over the whole thing.

Regardless, I do hope everyone has a lovely next few days. And by everyone I mean the 50ish people who read this each week. Eat a lot and don’t worry about working it off until the new year.

Oh, and please pray for snow for me. I may not love Christmas but I like it a whole lot more when it’s white.

Naps

You know what’s great? Naps. Naps are great.

I’ve been lying on my couch watching netflix and drifting in and out for about two hours now, and I’m sure I’ll be totally asleep half way through this next episode. And life is good. Because naps are good.

Think of the benefits: you don’t waste time changing into PJs, you can curl up in any mildly comfortable place, sometimes your dad covers you with a blanket, and even netflix will kindly pause if you don’t touch it for a while. There’s really no downside.

Also, just to clarify, I didn’t sign any sort of endorsement deal with naps to advertise them to you. I really enjoy their product just because it’s great.

Naps: try it. You won’t regret it.

Especially when you’re as sleepy and out of it as me, which is clearly indicated in this post.

Be kind

Life is hard. So don’t make it harder for anyone.

I say this to myself a lot, and I want to say it to everyone. Because it’s a very true statement, and something I think is necessary to live by. Life can be difficult and stressful and, some days, unbearable. Everyone is aware of this. So the worst thing you can do is make it any more difficult for anyone.

Be kind. Say nice things. Think before you say something harsh and hurtful. Listen. Don’t put people down. Don’t exclude. Keep the gossip to a minimum. Don’t speak poorly of someone who considers you a friend. Don’t judge someone before you know them. And don’t judge them poorly after you know them, because you never truly know a person as well as you thing. Read that impulsive text a few times over before you send it. Say what you mean and mean what you say, but don’t say mean things. Don’t ignore people. Be understanding and compassionate and empathetic. Share your baked good.

Sounds like common sense, but I think we forget to be nice way too often. Everyone has bad days and bad moods, but I don’t think this is an excuse to contribute to anyone else’s bad day. Take your words and actions into careful consideration, and think what affect they will have on those around you.

I know I’m not perfect at this, but I would like to work on it. I would like to be less selfish and see everything from someone else’s point of view. Because I know how easily I can be hurt or disheartened, and I would hate to be responsible for making someone else feel the same.

Life is hard for everyone. We all experience stress and struggles and rough days, and I think that because of this we need to work harder to make life easier for everyone by not making it any harder. And in turn, I think your days will get better, too.

Oh, and smile more. Smiles go a long way.